I believe there are four preliminary ways to know if you are in the right relationship;
First, if both of you are honest with each other. Trust is the most important thing in any relationship; if trust is ever broken or lost the relationship will suffer greatly. If trust is never established, more than likely a relationship is never established as well. If honesty is combined with open communication, nothing outside those two things can burn that bridge.
Second, if both of you know who you are dating. The key thing to remember is; know who you are dating. Get to know the person you are dating. Mingle with the circle of people they associate with, it is very important to know the type of company your significant other keeps. If there is any avoidance of your mate introducing you to the people they hang around with, that is definitely something worth looking into. Remember everyone has stepping stones and boundaries, so don't expect to meet the crew after the second date, but be weary if after a month or so of dating that you are the only person they know, that you know. Now men and women, do act and think differently, a lot of women do not like to bring someone they are dating around their friends until they have established officially what they are, this avoids any unnecessary drama.
Third, if both of you have the same vision as to where your relationship is going. If you and the person you are dating intentions aren't clear, that can be a major road block, even a deal breaker. If one person wants more than the other person has to offer, someone is going to always feel cheated. If you both have clearly communicated what you want, what you don't want, and what you can and can not handle, then you have set the standards for your relationship and you both know how far things can and can not go. Knowing the wants and needs of the other person, in my opinion can tell you if you are in the right relationship, because you both get to determine what you can compromise and what you can't.
Fourth, both of you have a mutual respect for each other. This is very important in determining if you are in the right relationship or not. Respect is the consideration that one has for another, and it is the obedience to remain in the standards of the relationship that the two of you established. If there is a lack of respect then there is clearly a lack of a relationship. The worse thing that anyone one can do to themselves, is lie to themselves about the strength of the relationship they are in. Deep down you know the truth to the preliminary ways to know if you are in the right relationship. So be honest with yourself and then communicate that honesty to the one you are with.
